The Most Important Thing You Can Do For Your Wellbeing
Updated: Mar 31
I truly believe that our wellbeing is centered on our experience of safety. I'm using the word "safety" in it's most board sense of the meaning. Our bodies are experts at determining our safety and in fact are making that judgement based on the most subtle aspects of our enviroment and relationships. It is done automatically and unconsciously. Whenever, our body determines that something is unsafe, it shifts into the a stressed state. This state can be experienced as unease, irritability, tension, alertness and so much more. When you think of any aspect of suffering, at it's root cause, I believe it is almost always an experience of a lack of safety. Whether that is emotional safety to be one's authentic self or physical safety, we are "hardwired" to want to feel safe in the world. And when we do, we feel our best.
In SIH (Somatic Intutive Healing) School, the foundation of working with others is to establish safety. We work with regulating the nervous system and creating an enviroment that supports the vulnerable work of healing. Learning to be able to identify and access where our nervous system is at is essential in being able to create the opportunity to choose healing. When you learn to see just how much the body is involved in your experiences of wellbeing, developing the tools to have a regulated and soothed nervous system can radically change your life. Whether you're interested in personal healing or professional development, I have developed 3 levels of programs to meet you where you're at: click HERE to learn more about my various educational offerings.
One of the easiest ways to support the body in feeling safe is co-regulation. You can do this with a friend, family member, or even a pet. Simply sitting next to someone who is feeling calm, safe and grounded in their body helps your body "remember" how to feel the same. To do this, first communicate with the person you would like support from that you need some help regulating your nervous system and that you'd like to simply sit next to them for 5-10 minutes. If doing this with an animal, the consent can be energetic :) When ready, sit next to the person and have one area of your body touch. For example, have the sides of your arms or legs touch. With a pet, you can have the pet on your lap or next to you and pet them or have them snuggle with you. Thats it. No advise or fixing needed. Simply being present with another nervous system supports your own nervous system health.
Jessica Garay is creator of Somatic Intuitive Healing™ and Moon Vibe Sanctuary in Portland, Oregon. Jessica offers professional training and certification programs in somatic therapy and craniosacral therapy in Portland, Oregon and around the world online. She is also passionate about helping other healers create sustainable and easeful businesses through holistic business coaching services. Learn more about Somatic Intuitive Healing and how to become a somatic therapist at www.somaticintuitivehealing.com & get support finding your bliss zone at www.moonvibesanctuary.com